Comparison

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Comparisons start at such a young age…I remember during my elementary years coming up with this idea that happiness was attained once you spot the differences in yourself to those around you. No one ever made it a point to remind me that I was special just being myself. So when I would see other girls around me and hearing how ‘skinny’ was beautiful I then internalized this. It would appear that then I thought my happiness could only exist if I was skinnier. I couldn’t see people…all I could see was the comparison of them skinnier than me or not which ultimately swallowed me alive and ended up spitting me out into an eating disorder later in life. That can be the path of comparison…slowly it could consume you to the negatives you have about yourself causing self-destruction.


There's so many things we can compare, but the truth is no matter what the comparisons don't stop. You think if you get one thing you'll finally be happier, but there will be always something to compare. It's a unfair cycle that brings you round and round....so break the cycle with a few realizations...

You are so dang unique....

You are who you are and thats enough. Focus on your journey, the people you have around you, and what makes you happy. The choice to be someone else is not an option, but the choice to enjoy who you are is. Make that choice and realize or find your uniqueness.

Comparison is a dead end…

Comparison does not lead you to attain anything besides negative feelings like shame, guilt, failure....unless you can turn around your comparison to motivation to better yourself then stop doing it. If you want to be successful in any area of your life, then work at it. If you spend time working at it you'll spend less time comparing and actually moving towards achieving it.


The Social Media Comparison web…

Now I TOO used to easily get stuck in the social media web of comparing...it’s so easy to look at pictures and want the life you THINK they have, or the attributes they have that you want, but I always remind myself that these are pictures. The realization with Social Media is we are putting out the things that depict our happiness because that’s what we want to see ourselves, but these images are mere fractions of peoples’ lives. It’s also filled with people pushing things onto you or trying to push you to purchase, look, or aspire to them. Sometimes I’m like what the hell am I doing…but for me I’m trying to get more people to be open to opening themselves. Rethink social media as not a way to criticize, compare, and be jealous of but to empower, encourage and support each other on their journey.

Be grateful…

Each day take 5 min. to be grateful for at least three things you have. It may feel weird, you may hate it, it might feel great, but do it. This will help you realize how much you actually have to be grateful for. There will always be people who have it worse or who have it better…but you just concentrate on you and the more you do…the more comparisons will lesson.


You’re wasting precious time…

No amount of comparing will provide you with what you are yearning for. You already have absolutely everything that you need…just work on it. Resentment is the only thing you attain when you compare...therefore resentment can really turn your life into a negative hole where you have ill feelings to yourself as well as to those around you. There's not enough seconds in the day to waste on negative things that hurt your life....use each second for growth, for positivity….for loving yourself.


See true self happiness comes from within. Being someone else you will still be faced with that same dilemma...the dilemma that you are who you are and you should try and embrace that instead of wanting to change that. You must find within yourself the strength to just accept who you are and use that vessel you have to enjoy this life the best you can.

Sometimes it looks great to have something that you believe would fix it all...but the truth is comparison is just another distraction our mind comes up with...don't waste this amazing life wishing to have things or to be someone that is not you.

Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.
— Allen Ginsberg