Rick and I bought our house in June, but ever since, it felt like we were still living in our old apartment. The old furniture, the old layout, we kept it pretty much the same. We've been talking about changing things for awhile now, but like most things in this life, it takes a good deal of time and money. However, lately we have both been feeling inspired to make some changes to our space. We started with the living room and the dining room. We ordered some new items (along with purchasing numerous plants, which I do all year round, I LOVE PLANTS!)
Even though we only wanted to make a few changes, I forgot how stressful and frustrating making any changes can be.
So how do I incorporate my mess into therapy?
Life sometimes gets messy. Some messes are our own doing and some messes are just apart of life. Therefore, to implement change, you must positively cope and grow from the mess you're facing.
When things change we become out of place and uncomfortable....we tend to want things to go back to what we know, what we're used too. However, just like the changing in my house, changing in ourselves is necessary to keep positively growing. It doesn't always look pretty...in-fact it often looks messy and we have a hard time visualizing the outcome. However, a little change and discomfort often can yield a positive result (above isn't even how bad the mess really was.)
These messes pertain to whatever changes you're dealing with; a new job, moving, having children, getting into a relationship, getting out of a relationship, behavioral changes, even redecorating...any changes in your life. The messes we face help guide us to make the realizations we need about ourselves...
Messy situations and changes can lead you to becoming more flexible. When you learn the importance of flexibility in your life, things will be easier to face. When you learn flexibility...you adapt easier, enjoy things more, and learn to accept things you cannot change. This can be a life changer.
Progress. Progress, progress, progress. Life isn't a race, it's a journey and with each change and uncomfortable moment comes an opportunity to better ourselves. A simple living room catastrophe causes the beautiful living room you've seen unfold. Same goes with YOU, you need to progress, but to do so, you need to embrace all types of situations that will test your ability to adapt and move through them.
Routine. Sometimes those who sit day in and day out in the same routine, the same environment, become more and more unhappy. Some routines take a toll on certain people and life starts to look dull and unexciting. These are the times when you need to take a step back and see the way you're really living and see what aspects you can change. Only then can you start making the steps in your life which could bring in new opportunities for yourself which could lead to happiness and a more fulfilling life.
Lastly, empathy (empathy: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.) We all experience messes. Therefore, have some understanding with people you come in contact with, friends, and family. Understand that we are all trying to cope and deal with different stressful situations. It's easy to forget that when you're struggling, but once you start to embrace that we all have messes to clean up, it'll help you cultivate more empathy in your daily life.